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Kids Raising Their Parents

Started by Christian on March 14, 2013
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Christian said #1 Mar 14, 2013 at 5:18pm

Hi everyone, Ms. Lachey I am a big fan of yours, I hope you and your friends will give some advice to a hard working 28 year old such as myself. Ladies when do I get to say "Ok I have arrived"? I feel like I'm near retirement. I've been working since I was 16 years old, my dad who is a minister left us struggling when I was a teenager and now my mom and my brother are living with me.

I bought my first home at 25 and I haven't enjoyed it because instead of paying for 1,I'm paying for 3. I just feel like I could accomplish more but I am financially restricted because I am always left picking up my dad's mess. Can anybody relate to me? I want to write a great screenplay, open a cafe in my home town of Maryland and get married, does anyone out there have any words of encouragement for a person like me?

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Pamela Morris said #2 Mar 17, 2013 at 8:51pm

Your story is one that I hear so often. It is one that makes me plan my retirement carefully so that my daughter doesn't wind up spending her adult life taking care of me.
The best advice I can give you is to be honest with your mother. Tell her the burden she (and your brother) are putting on you and how their presence in your home is holding you back. Then, go to a social service agency and see what support you can help your mother get so that she will be able to get a place of her own.
Now for you......take your life back. You are not responsible for your father leaving or your mother falling in to despair. You have been a remarkable daughter and human being so don't feel guilty for wanting success and happiness for yourself.
I wish you well in your quest to reclaim your life.

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